July 26th 2010 by Charlie Hofheimer
Of all the things to take into consideration during a Virginia divorce, your personal safety is the most important.
If you’re in an abusive relationship and want to escape, there are steps you can take to make the transition easier and safer.
Write down descriptions of abusive episodes as soon as you can after they happen. This will come in handy in your Virginia divorce as well as in any criminal case against your spouse.
If possible, set aside some emergency money so you won’t be without financial means when you leave. Listed below are a few other factors to keep in mind when trying to escape an abusive marriage in Virginia:
- Build a network of support. This can include trusted friends, family members and women’s shelter employees. These people will provide advice and moral support as well as practical assistance.
- Cover your tracks. Be sure that all documentation, correspondence, and conversations related to your abuse and your escape plan and/or divorce are kept secret from your husband.
- You can keep documents at a friend’s home, browse email and shelter information at your local library, and use public phones or a secure cell phone to make important calls.
- Choose your day, time and route of escape. Know how and when you will leave the house. If possible, choose a time when your husband is likely to be away from home.
- Consider a police escort if you think your spouse will try to prevent you from leaving.
- Keep yourself and your children safe! Keep a low profile until your escape day. Try to keep a phone with you at all times. If an emergency arises, call 911 immediately.
At this vulnerable time, it’s critical that you have exceptional legal representation that not only understands the specifics of your case, but is dedicated to your best interests and that of your family.
The Virginia divorce attorneys at Hofheimer/Ferrebee represent Virginia women who wish to file for divorce. We are committed to fighting for your rights, assisting in child custody disputes, and advocating that you receive everything you are entitled to and need in order to start your new life. You can learn more by requesting a FREE copy of our book, What Every Virginia Woman Should Know About Divorce, or reserving your seat at our monthly divorce seminar – 757-425-5200.